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February 27th, 2010

Lake Tahoe Relay, 2010

Attention runners!

2010 Lake Tahoe Relay logoThe 46th Annual DeCelle Memorial Lake Tahoe Relay will take place on June 12.

The most scenic run in all of America, the route runs completely around Lake Tahoe. Seven-member teams run the seven legs, each 8-12 miles long, for a total of 72 miles, through both California and Nevada. It is a favorite race for many teams, who return year after year. If you want to participate, you have better register early. There are a limited number of slots and last year some teams had to be turned away because they didn’t register early enough.

This is the 46th annual race! The race’s founder, Robert E. DeCelle Sr., devoted his life to promoting distance running, serving as an official, certifying courses, and lobbying for more events. His advocacy was instrumental in gaining support for women to compete in distance running events. He passed away in 1997, two weeks after the 33rd annual relay.

Lake Tahoe Relay mapThe race is named after Robert DeCelle, Sr’s son, Captain Robert DeCelle, Jr. “Bobby” as his family called him, an avid high school runner. Drafted into the Army in 1966, he flew a helicopter during the Vietnam War. In February 1971 his helicopter was hit and he suffered severe injuries, yet he managed to pilot it away from the battle and thus saved the lives of his crew. He died from his injuries about a week later on February 21, 1971. He was heavily decorated by the Army and a base in Vietnam was named for him. At that time, the Lake Tahoe Relay was renamed in his honor.

This not-for-profit relay event is staffed each year by dozens of volunteers, most of them friends and extended DeCelle family members. All profit from entry fees goes to local high school running programs, a fitting tribute to both Robert Sr. and Bobby. The race is managed and coordinated by April DeCelle Carter, who is Robert Sr.’s daughter, Bobby’s sister, and—as you might expect—an avid runner herself.

For more information, go to the race’s web site, http://www.laketahoerelay.com, or send me an e-mail message and I’ll snail mail you a flyer with registration information.

Okay, I admit it. We have a family connection. My charming and talented daughter Olivia married Scott Carter, April’s son and Robert Sr.’s grandson. Mike and I will be doing our part during the race, directing traffic, cheering runners, and playing with the West’s most charming grandkids as much as possible.

Visit the Relay web site now! We hope to see you in Lake Tahoe June 12!

November 25th, 2009

Thanksgiving: Chez Jeppson-Kessler

This year we will spend a quiet day at home, with a meal for the two of us and a friend. With spiced mulled cider simmering in the background and a fresh bouquet of orange roses on the table, we’ll have a nice fire in the fireplace.

The menu is modest this year and includes:

  • Roast duckling with Oregon Zinfandel Cherry glaze
  • Herb stuffing
  • Crushed cranberry sauce
  • Fresh green beans sautéed with garlic and slivered almonds
  • Corn-on-the-cob with herb butter
  • Beauregard Yams stuffed with almond paste and ginger
  • Garlic mashed potatoes with gravy
  • Green salad with homemade cilantro vinaigrette
  • Homemade pumpkin pie with whipped cream (store-bought crust, sorry Mom)

Happy Thanksgiving from both of us.

What are your holiday plans?

November 14th, 2009

August Coppola: 1934-2009

August Coppola. Photo: San Francisco State UniversityI learned today that one of my heroes passed away recently from a heart attack at age 75.

My first encounter with August Coppola came shortly after I graduated from high school in 1966. (Yeah, I know, 90% of the world’s population wasn’t born yet and I just dated myself.) I had won a couple of scholarships, which I planned to put to use when I entered California State University-Long Beach in the fall. I was flattered to get an invitation from Augie—then a renowned professor of comparative literature—to apply for the General Honors Program. When I interviewed he asked me if I knew what “interdisciplinary” meant (remember, this was 1966) I gave him my best explanation. He smiled broadly and said, “This kid is the first to answer the question right.” I am sure he lied, but I walked out feeling taller and smarter than I ever had. I felt like I could take on the world.

I was accepted into the program, so I assumed there would be hundreds of others. There were only a couple dozen and they were the brainiest people I’ve ever dealt with. I was in his Freshman Honors Colloquium class for my full freshman year. In his class I did my first serious reading of Freud, Darwin, Kant, Marx, Jefferson, Sartre, Aristotle, Heidegger, the Beats, Saint Augustine, Buddha, Auden, Weiner, Yeats, Jung, Camus, Hesse, Mann, Kieerkegaard, Maslow, Kafka, Beckett, Buber, Dostoyevsky, Thomas Aquinas, Nietzsche, Bertrand Russell, a pile of contemporary playwrights, and so many more. Our reading list was 47 books long and included Freud’s Psychopathology of Everyday Life, Darwin’s On the Origin of Species, and William James’s The Varieties of Religious Experience. I had never read so much in my life!

When we studied film he brought in his brother, director Francis Ford Coppola. When we studied Who’s Afraid of Virginia Woolf he brought in its playwright Edward Albee. When we studied music, it was for six weeks with fellow professor Frank Pooler, who had just finished his collaboration with Karen and Richard Carpenter on the Christmas standard “Merry Christmas, Darling” but had time to teach us about electronic music and had us composing music on synthesizers. Augie had us doing painting and writing poetry. And we felt good about it, even though we knew our work probably sucked.

(He even introduced me to his aspiring actress sister, Talia, with whom I had a memorable movie date. She went on to marry film composer David Shire a few years later and was nominated for an Oscar as Rocky’s wife Adrian, played a young bride in “The Godfather,” and many other roles.)

Our final project was a film based on Hesse’s Siddhartha. We adapted the script, acted, manned the cameras, edited the film, composed and played the music. His reluctant 3-year-old son Nick (now known as Nicholas Cage) was in the film (maybe his first acting role). When we held the premier of the film you would have thought the red carpet was waiting for us.

After my freshman year, I took some time off, then decided to serve a Mormon mission. I had talked to him about my faith and he had talked me through the writing of a paper on Mormonism and Existentialism. I gained a great deal of confidence from him because he accepted what I had to say and treated me with respect, as if I were the real adult I was. I returned to campus before heading to Peru and he was excited for me. He asked me to report my adventures when I returned. Lesser students and professors had ridiculed my decision to abandon my studies for at least two years to go off to South America to teach.

He later went on to become dean of the School of Creative Arts at San Francisco State University. He was a champion of the arts, working tirelessly and stubbornly to see that they got their due. As a result, in 1997 the school dedicated The August Coppola Theater in the Fine Arts Building in honor of his efforts.

About 20 years after having Augie as a teacher I had lunch with him in San Francisco. I waited nervously in a restaurant he had chosen, knowing he would never recognize me. He did, of course, and remembered much about my work. We talked about the nature of creativity in human beings, and how it manifests itself so differently in individuals, families, societies, and times. I was working for Gibbs Smith, Publisher, at the time and I was interested in the amazing creativity demonstrated by his family. His brother was one of the greatest film directors in the world, his son had won a Best Actor Academy Award, his sister Talia Shire is a much-lauded actress and producer and mother of actors Robert and Jason Schwartzman, his niece and nephew directors Sophia Coppola (”Lost in Translation”) and Roman Coppola, and his father was Oscar-winning composer Carmine Coppola. (See the Coppola Family Tree.)I wanted him to consider writing about his family as a study in creative influences. I had read his brother Francis Ford say that Augie was the intellectual core of the family. He took the project under consideration but eventually decided against it because he didn’t think he was talented enough to do it justice.

He was a true eccentric. He was often serious, but never took himself too seriously. He was a kid at heart, playful all the time and willing to entertain any idea—no matter how wacky. He was a visionary in every sense of the word, reaching farther than anyone I have ever known to understand how things connected. He opened up in me a sense of wonder and an intense desire for learning about how things relate to each other: history, literature, film, music, art, political thought, and theatre. When I went on to teach at a university, I tried hard to help my students find those same connections. He cracked the door to a whole new world for me and that door has always remained open. I’ll always be grateful that he introduced me to a true interdisciplinary way of viewing the world.

Looking back at this blog post, I realize that it is as much about me as about Augie Coppola. He had that effect on people. Many of the news items are about the death of Nicholas Cage’s father. But all who knew him will smile at that irony. He will be greatly missed.

Some obituaries:

November 3rd, 2009

LGBT Handcart Rescue

Great LGBT Handcart RescueI have written about the need to bring struggling lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender Mormons back into the fold, as a demonstration of unconditional love and acceptance. It is a cause I believe in very strongly, as it is a cause of incredible family pain that does not seem to have its equal in non-Mormon families. (See Keep Them and Love Them.)

I have also written about the Foundation for Reconciliation and their laudable activities (see A Move Toward Reconciliation, Bring them In From the Plains and the Home at Last benefit concert). Wednesday, Nov. 4, the anniversary of the passage of Proposition 8 in California with tens of millions of dollars of help from individual Mormons and Mormon companies, all at the request of their ecclesiastical leaders, is another Foundation activity.

The Great LGBT Handcart Rescue begins at 1:00 pm at the This is the Place Monument. From there, the group will trek by handcart, as did so many of our pioneer ancestors, to a 3:30 pm gathering at City Creek Park, at the northeast corner of North Temple and State streets. At 4:00 p.m., the group will deliver a package with signatures from a petition asking for reconciliation with LGBT members to LDS Church Headquarters.

This is an important event in the continuing story of LGBT equality in Utah and in the LDS Church. I encourage all who can spare some time to join in the Wednesday afternoon trek—or at least a part of it—and join the gathering at 3:30. Because so few of us can travel to Utah for the event, we count on those of you who are fair-minded and care about your family members to stand up for them and participate.

And thank you, Foundation for Reconciliation, for your continuing hard work on our behalf.

September 1st, 2009

Hubby Hubby

Ben & Jerry’s Renames Legendary Flavor to Celebrate Freedom to Marry

Hubby HubbyBURLINGTON, Vt. - (BUSINESS WIRE) - Ben & Jerry’s, known for its euphoric ice cream flavors and dedication to social justice, celebrates the beginning of the freedom to marry for gay and lesbian couples in Vermont with the symbolic renaming of its well-known ice cream flavor “Chubby Hubby” to “Hubby Hubby.” In partnership with Freedom to Marry, Ben & Jerry’s aims to raise awareness of the importance of marriage equality and, to show its support, will serve “Hubby Hubby” sundaes in Vermont Scoop Shops throughout the month of September.

Ben & Jerry’s has a long history of commitment to social justice, including gay rights. Its partnership with Freedom to Marry, a national leader in the movement for marriage equality, aims to raise awareness of the importance of marriage equality and to encourage other states to follow the blazing trails of Vermont, Massachusetts, Connecticut, Iowa, and Maine. Freedom to Marry promotes the national conversation about why marriage equality matters and brings together partner organizations into a larger whole - a shared civil rights campaign.
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August 3rd, 2009

Kyle

Kyle RedfordOur good friend Mike Redford brought his two children, Kyle and Marlee, to our home in Washington, DC, many years ago – too many to remember, exactly. We enjoyed having Kyle and Marlee visit. Their parents, Mike and Karen, had done a good job and both kids were well-mannered, intelligent and inquisitive. Kyle came back with his dad several years later and stayed with us once again. He was older, in his mid-teens, I think, and had only grown brighter and more inquisitive. Thoughtful questioning always impresses me as a sign of a person who sees value in expanding his or her mind, and both Kyle and Marlee expressed that quality abundantly.

Buckley and I didn’t see Kyle or Marlee after that, but we saw their dad, Mike, often and spoke with him on the phone frequently and sent each other postcards, letters and photos. Mike always kept us up to date on how his two children were doing, ever the proud papa, and through the photos we watched the two children grow to adulthood.

Last week, on Tuesday, July 28, Kyle was enjoying riding his skateboard late at night near his home in Reading, Pennsylvania. We don’t know the full details, but at one point Kyle rode the board down a steep street, crashed and struck his head. He suffered traumatic brain injury and never recovered consciousness. He was taken to the nearest hospital and died 24 hours later, on Wednesday, July 29, his parents and his sister by his side. Kyle David Redford was 21 years old. » Read the rest of this entry »

July 28th, 2009

Marni’s Ride

This post is from a dear friend of ours, Marni Myers, who lives and works in the Washington, DC, area. We strongly encourage you to support her effort, as we have.

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Marni Myers during the 2008 LiveStrong RideA few weeks ago, Buckley kindly invited me to be a guest blogger on The Buck and Mike Blog. Since then, I’ve mentally written this post dozens of different ways, trying to strike just the right tone and include just the right content. The result: Scrap all previous attempts and just be blunt. The purpose of my post is this: I’m raising money for the Lance Armstrong Foundation, which funds cancer research and supports those currently battling cancer, and I’m looking for donations.

Jeremy MyersThree years ago, I watched my brother lose his battle with melanoma at the age of 30, leaving behind a wife and two young children. Since this death, my family and I have rallied around this worthy cause, namely through our participation in the Foundation’s LiveStrong Challenge—an event held in various locations throughout the country every summer in which participants walk, run, or ride their bikes to raise money for the Lance Armstrong Foundation. The atmosphere at the Challenge is inspiring, as everyone there has been personally affected by the devastation that cancer causes. Many of the participants are cancer survivors and some are fighting against cancer right now.

This year, I plan to ride my bike 70 miles in the hilly countryside around Philadelphia to show my commitment to finding a cure for this pervasive, despicable disease. In previous years, I’ve gone 40 miles, so 70 will be a stretch, but I figure that is what the LiveStrong Challenge is all about. I’ve already raised over $500 and would like to see that figure top $1,000—not only because this is an extremely worthy cause, but because I have a friendly competition going with my brother-in-law. I have won every year so far and see no reason to discontinue that trend.

Cancer touches everyone. If you don’t know anyone who’s had cancer, just wait. If no one close to you has yet died of cancer, just wait. I believe we can change that pattern by pooling our resources to find a cure.

There are thousands of worthy causes out there vying for attention. Today I ask that you focus on mine. Any donation, no matter how small, makes a difference. To donate, visit my personal fundraising webpage here. Let’s stop this thing called cancer in its tracks! Thank you.

Marni rides with
Team Ohana logo

June 29th, 2009

Birthday Week

A report on my birthday week:

I spent most of the week training some Dept. of Transportation people in Seattle, WA. I decided to take the train because I had never done so. It was a nice change of pace and the scenery was beautiful.

Portland Train StationThe Portland train station, built in 1896, is one of the oldest continually-operating train stations in the country. One of the highlights was gliding past the Tacoma Narrows bridge just before the sun set.Tacoma Narrows Bridge

The training was at the Henry Jackson Federal Building. It was very busy and a bit stressful, but I was to spend some time checking in with some old friends. Part of the fun included dinner with artist and buddy Marjorie Masel, her boyfriend, and a family friend from Chile. They took me out to a lovely dinner in advance of my birthday.

Thursday afternoon I had a few hours between my last training session and my train back to Portland, so Marjorie and I went to the Frye Museum for an exhibit about puppets titled, appropriately, The Puppet Show. A few interesting things, but the highlight was hanging out with Marjorie and discussing art. I returned home pretty tired on Amtrak Thursday evening.

With Maggie Rowe at Multmomah FallsOn Friday, our friend Maggie from Washington, DC, arrived for a short visit. We picked her up at the airport and, after a lunch stop, went directly to Multmomah Falls, our favorite Oregon Wonder. On the way, we stopped at Vista House, built in 1916-18 as a view point over the Columbia River Gorge and a “comfort station” for visitors. (More on Vista House in a later blog post.)

After a short rest, we headed to Hopworks Urban Brewery for dinner, where I watched Mike and Maggie test 10 new micro-brews. Guess who was the designated driver.

After dinner we headed to Mock Crest Tavern to see our favorite band, Sneakin’ Out, in their first engagement since returning from the national tour that took them to Carnegie Hall in NYC, Wolf Trap in Washington, DC, and several other great locations.

Three Stooges at the MoviesVoodoo Donuts, a Portland institutionSaturday we dragged ourselves, and Maggie, to the Portland Japanese Gardens, a tour of the city, and dinner at our place. Then we headed to the Living Room Theatres for a showing of Coraline in 3D, then to Voodoo Donuts before heading home to collapse and feast on donuts.

On Sunday, we drove Maggie through some of our favorite neighborhoods and had brunch at Vita Cafe, in the Alberta Arts District, before heading to the airport to drop her off. We had a great time with Maggie, though I’m sure she is as exhausted as we are.

Birthday FlowersTrain travel, good food with good friends, art, movies; gifts from Mike, Mom, and Marjorie; cards from friends and relatives; calls from Mom and some siblings; flowers from Liv and Scott and the world’s most perfect grandbabes; a visit from Maggie the Party Lady. What more could one ask for a birthday week?

May 16th, 2009

Mike’s Birthday Gift

Open birthday bookOkay, so Mike had his 52nd birthday last week. Stealing an idea from creative daughter Olivia, I solicited birthday wishes and comments from Mike’s friends and family. I received over 40 responses. They included all his siblings, some of mine, Liv and her family, Mike’s niece and nephews, parents, and many friends. Some sent finished pages, most sent picture and some text for me to format. (What did we do before Photoshop?) The request went out a few days before his birthday, so there wasn’t much notice. Some people were out of town or didn’t check their e-mail for other reasons until it was too late. I didn’t have e-mail addresses for everyone he knows, and some requests were returned because I had old addresses. Nevertheless, the project was a success.

I took the electronic compilation to Kinko’s to print out and spiral bind. They printed it smaller than I had requested and it was too late to redo it. Still, it turned out well. Several people have suggested I show some samples, so here are a few.

Thanks to everyone who took the time to participate. (Click thumbnail to see larger image.)


Front Cover Big Sister
Marsha Lenox
Little Sister
Lori Lowenthal
Baby Sister
Ellen Kessler
Old Friend
Dawn Brandvold
Cover Marsha Lenox Lori Lowenthal Ellen Kessler Dawn Brandvold
Comrade Neil
Brandvold
Old Friend
Allan Armus
Brother-in-Law
Paul Jeppson Family
Sister-in-Law
Meredith Jeppson
Cute Grandson
Rob Carter
Comrade Neil Brandvold Allan Armus Paul Jeppson Family Meredith Jeppson Roberto Carter
Friend and World
Traveler Ian Signer
Portland Friends
The Holmbergs
Seattle Artist and
Friend Marjorie Masel
Wash DC Friend
David Bruce
Wash DC Friends
Thom and Bill
Ian Signer The Holmbergs Marjorie Masel David Bruce Thom Haller and Bill Wallace

December 9th, 2008

Day Without a Gay

Call in GayDecember 10, International Human Rights Day, has been designated Day Without a Gay.

Some same-sex marriage supporters are urging people to “call in gay” (as opposed to “call in sick”) Wednesday to show how much the country relies on gays and lesbians. Modeled after similar work stoppages by Latino immigrants in the past, participants are encouraged to spend the day performing volunteer work and refrain from spending money. The idea is to counteract recent hatred by showing love instead.

Not just gay people are calling in. Many straight same-sex marriage supportes are doing so. We have some friends and relatives who are joining the action.

In 30 states, you can be fired simply for being gay or lesbian. Calling in gay would not be a great idea. Organizers of the action point out that there are still plenty of ways that you can lend a hand and a voice in our fight for gay equality—without missing work. Here are some ways.

Other activists question the wisdom of Day Without a Gay, given the current economic situation in the country. “It’s extra-challenging for people to think about taking off work as a form of protest, given that we are talking about people who may not be out (as gay) at work, and given the current economic situation and job market,” said Jules Graves, coordinator of the Colorado Queer Straight Alliance. “There is really not any assurance employers would appreciate it for what it is.” Nevertheless, his group is collecting food and non-perishable items to donate to local charity organizations.

Whichever side of the fence you are one, in my opinion it’s never a bad idea to be open about who you are and what you contribute to society. Whether it’s your contributions at work, in the marketplace, or volunteering in the community, gay people are just like everyone else. We participate, produce, consume, pay taxes, and help take care of society. Perhaps Day Without a Gay reminds a few more people of that fact. If so, it’s worth the effort.

December 7th, 2008

Milestones for Dawn and the Table

December 8th is our good friend Dawn Brandvold’s 50th birthday and I was thinking about her this weekend as I worked on my latest project exercising our 3Rs ethic (Reduce, Reuse, Recycle).

Table before refinishingWhen we moved into our house there was a filthy, beat up old table in the basement. I made a couple of extra leaves so that I could extend it, carefully drilling, glueing, and adding pegs. At first, the Neurotic Perfectionist in me wanted to strip off the old finish, fill the scores of holes, repair the burn marks, and fix the worn edges. The top, especially was a mess, as you can see in the top picture.

I plan to cut fabric on the table, so the top and edges have to be very smooth. As I started to sand, I got to see the marks up close. Rather than viewing them as flaws, I saw them as marks of character. My favorite was a long drip of bright red fingernail polish. (If you click the picture, you can see the nail polish.) I’m sure there was a great story behind it. Why on Earth would I want to take away the character of this classic old piece? So I changed course. As soon as the top was smooth enough to cut the risk of snagging fabrics, I put a coat of rich stain and finish. After it dried, I added another coat, then a third. I finished with three coats of polyurethane. Finally, after four days of work and waiting for drying finishes, it’s done! As you can see in the bottom photo, it retains it character and is absolutely beautiful.

Table after refinishing.So here is where Dawn’s 50th birthday comes in. No, she is not beaten up around the edges, or covered with burn marks and oil stains. She has weathered her years quite well, as a matter of fact. But when I think back on the 25+ years we have been friends, I am warmed by some wonderful memories. In an attempt to guard her reputation, I won’t share any details. Each experience we have makes its mark on us, and as we revisit the memory later it takes on added warmth and the rich patina that only comes with age and life experience. We have been through good times and tough times. Our families vacationed together. We reinforced each other’s progressive social politics, lamented the rise of the Neocons and social conservatives, and then cheered their recent fall as the country begins a new era of hope. We watched our perfect children grow up to be extraordinary adults. We moved to different states, but always kept in close contact. She is another sister to me, one who will always be there no matter what.

So with every project that gets born on my new old table, with its extraordinary character, I’ll think of the many people who have made their marks on my life and helped me grow. The red fingernail polish, the mark that stands out the most, is for Dawn.


Happy Birthday, dear friend!

December 3rd, 2008

Art to Share: Jennifer Maestre

Good friend and Seattle artist Marjorie Masel recently brought to my attention the work of sculptor Jennifer Maestre. Inspired at first by the beauty and danger of sea urchins, her work has since branched out to include other natural and mythological forms. She cuts, drills, and sews together hundreds of colored pencils as if they were beads into fantastical shapes. The pieces draw the viewer in for a closer look, but the sharp pencils remind us that sometimes there is danger in beautiful things.

Click the images to view larger photos and be sure to visit her web site for titles and other details on the pieces: www.jennifermaestre.com.


Asteridae Aurora Aurora, detail
3 to 1 Twist Flex Imp
Heat Wave Luna Hive