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February 27th, 2010

Lake Tahoe Relay, 2010

Attention runners!

2010 Lake Tahoe Relay logoThe 46th Annual DeCelle Memorial Lake Tahoe Relay will take place on June 12.

The most scenic run in all of America, the route runs completely around Lake Tahoe. Seven-member teams run the seven legs, each 8-12 miles long, for a total of 72 miles, through both California and Nevada. It is a favorite race for many teams, who return year after year. If you want to participate, you have better register early. There are a limited number of slots and last year some teams had to be turned away because they didn’t register early enough.

This is the 46th annual race! The race’s founder, Robert E. DeCelle Sr., devoted his life to promoting distance running, serving as an official, certifying courses, and lobbying for more events. His advocacy was instrumental in gaining support for women to compete in distance running events. He passed away in 1997, two weeks after the 33rd annual relay.

Lake Tahoe Relay mapThe race is named after Robert DeCelle, Sr’s son, Captain Robert DeCelle, Jr. “Bobby” as his family called him, an avid high school runner. Drafted into the Army in 1966, he flew a helicopter during the Vietnam War. In February 1971 his helicopter was hit and he suffered severe injuries, yet he managed to pilot it away from the battle and thus saved the lives of his crew. He died from his injuries about a week later on February 21, 1971. He was heavily decorated by the Army and a base in Vietnam was named for him. At that time, the Lake Tahoe Relay was renamed in his honor.

This not-for-profit relay event is staffed each year by dozens of volunteers, most of them friends and extended DeCelle family members. All profit from entry fees goes to local high school running programs, a fitting tribute to both Robert Sr. and Bobby. The race is managed and coordinated by April DeCelle Carter, who is Robert Sr.’s daughter, Bobby’s sister, and—as you might expect—an avid runner herself.

For more information, go to the race’s web site, http://www.laketahoerelay.com, or send me an e-mail message and I’ll snail mail you a flyer with registration information.

Okay, I admit it. We have a family connection. My charming and talented daughter Olivia married Scott Carter, April’s son and Robert Sr.’s grandson. Mike and I will be doing our part during the race, directing traffic, cheering runners, and playing with the West’s most charming grandkids as much as possible.

Visit the Relay web site now! We hope to see you in Lake Tahoe June 12!

January 18th, 2010

Martin Luther King, Jr.

Street sign celebrating the life of Martin Luther King, Jr.In 1968 I was serving as a Mormon missionary in a poor barrio just outside Lima, Peru, when news came of the assassination of Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. Although it’s difficult to understand nearly 42 years later, there was not universal mourning at his death. In Peru, many expat Americans didn’t particularly care, as he had been accused of being a Communist and the FBI was constantly harassing him. Images of him in the media were those of a lawbreaker: always fiercely critical of the American society that our parents had worked so hard to build and maintain, unpatriotic in his lack of enthusiastic support for a war that was killing many of our friends, and often pictured in handcuffs being led away to some jail somewhere. One of the missionaries I served with—red-haired Elder Mangum from Provo, UT—said, in essence, “Good riddance.” (I’ll spare everyone the exact language, chalking it up to a callow 19-year-old with a still-developing brain. It would be another decade before the LDS Church would grant universal priesthood rights to men of every race and ethnicity.) Peruvians, however, were quite distraught and our mission leaders advised foreign missionaries to stay indoors for a couple days. (When Bobby Kennedy was assassinated a couple months later, we were advised to stay indoors for a week.)

Why do I bring this up? Because as we celebrate Dr. King’s birthday and remember his legacy, we should also celebrate the victories and the ground we have gained since then. We should remember him for his words and actions, and think of ways to incorporate those things into our daily lives. Today is a much different world. Who would have thought that in every major city in the United States (and in some foreign countries) you can find a street, park, or school named in his honor. He would be astonished that the majority of Americans elected an African-American as President of the United States! No, ours is not a race-neutral society. But do not kid yourself into thinking it’s worse than other countries. We are also not a gender-neutral, religion-neutral, handicap-neutral, or sexual orientation-neutral society. We still have much to do.

Dr. King warned us about not being victims, a lesson we clearly haven’t learned yet. Whether we see ourselves as victims of a racist society, parents who neglected their familial duties, a bad economy, schools, teachers, religion, a bad marriage, a dead-end job, or the government, we need to grow up and get our butts in gear. If there is anything we should have learned from him, it is to stop being victims and get to work.

November 14th, 2009

August Coppola: 1934-2009

August Coppola. Photo: San Francisco State UniversityI learned today that one of my heroes passed away recently from a heart attack at age 75.

My first encounter with August Coppola came shortly after I graduated from high school in 1966. (Yeah, I know, 90% of the world’s population wasn’t born yet and I just dated myself.) I had won a couple of scholarships, which I planned to put to use when I entered California State University-Long Beach in the fall. I was flattered to get an invitation from Augie—then a renowned professor of comparative literature—to apply for the General Honors Program. When I interviewed he asked me if I knew what “interdisciplinary” meant (remember, this was 1966) I gave him my best explanation. He smiled broadly and said, “This kid is the first to answer the question right.” I am sure he lied, but I walked out feeling taller and smarter than I ever had. I felt like I could take on the world.

I was accepted into the program, so I assumed there would be hundreds of others. There were only a couple dozen and they were the brainiest people I’ve ever dealt with. I was in his Freshman Honors Colloquium class for my full freshman year. In his class I did my first serious reading of Freud, Darwin, Kant, Marx, Jefferson, Sartre, Aristotle, Heidegger, the Beats, Saint Augustine, Buddha, Auden, Weiner, Yeats, Jung, Camus, Hesse, Mann, Kieerkegaard, Maslow, Kafka, Beckett, Buber, Dostoyevsky, Thomas Aquinas, Nietzsche, Bertrand Russell, a pile of contemporary playwrights, and so many more. Our reading list was 47 books long and included Freud’s Psychopathology of Everyday Life, Darwin’s On the Origin of Species, and William James’s The Varieties of Religious Experience. I had never read so much in my life!

When we studied film he brought in his brother, director Francis Ford Coppola. When we studied Who’s Afraid of Virginia Woolf he brought in its playwright Edward Albee. When we studied music, it was for six weeks with fellow professor Frank Pooler, who had just finished his collaboration with Karen and Richard Carpenter on the Christmas standard “Merry Christmas, Darling” but had time to teach us about electronic music and had us composing music on synthesizers. Augie had us doing painting and writing poetry. And we felt good about it, even though we knew our work probably sucked.

(He even introduced me to his aspiring actress sister, Talia, with whom I had a memorable movie date. She went on to marry film composer David Shire a few years later and was nominated for an Oscar as Rocky’s wife Adrian, played a young bride in “The Godfather,” and many other roles.)

Our final project was a film based on Hesse’s Siddhartha. We adapted the script, acted, manned the cameras, edited the film, composed and played the music. His reluctant 3-year-old son Nick (now known as Nicholas Cage) was in the film (maybe his first acting role). When we held the premier of the film you would have thought the red carpet was waiting for us.

After my freshman year, I took some time off, then decided to serve a Mormon mission. I had talked to him about my faith and he had talked me through the writing of a paper on Mormonism and Existentialism. I gained a great deal of confidence from him because he accepted what I had to say and treated me with respect, as if I were the real adult I was. I returned to campus before heading to Peru and he was excited for me. He asked me to report my adventures when I returned. Lesser students and professors had ridiculed my decision to abandon my studies for at least two years to go off to South America to teach.

He later went on to become dean of the School of Creative Arts at San Francisco State University. He was a champion of the arts, working tirelessly and stubbornly to see that they got their due. As a result, in 1997 the school dedicated The August Coppola Theater in the Fine Arts Building in honor of his efforts.

About 20 years after having Augie as a teacher I had lunch with him in San Francisco. I waited nervously in a restaurant he had chosen, knowing he would never recognize me. He did, of course, and remembered much about my work. We talked about the nature of creativity in human beings, and how it manifests itself so differently in individuals, families, societies, and times. I was working for Gibbs Smith, Publisher, at the time and I was interested in the amazing creativity demonstrated by his family. His brother was one of the greatest film directors in the world, his son had won a Best Actor Academy Award, his sister Talia Shire is a much-lauded actress and producer and mother of actors Robert and Jason Schwartzman, his niece and nephew directors Sophia Coppola (”Lost in Translation”) and Roman Coppola, and his father was Oscar-winning composer Carmine Coppola. (See the Coppola Family Tree.)I wanted him to consider writing about his family as a study in creative influences. I had read his brother Francis Ford say that Augie was the intellectual core of the family. He took the project under consideration but eventually decided against it because he didn’t think he was talented enough to do it justice.

He was a true eccentric. He was often serious, but never took himself too seriously. He was a kid at heart, playful all the time and willing to entertain any idea—no matter how wacky. He was a visionary in every sense of the word, reaching farther than anyone I have ever known to understand how things connected. He opened up in me a sense of wonder and an intense desire for learning about how things relate to each other: history, literature, film, music, art, political thought, and theatre. When I went on to teach at a university, I tried hard to help my students find those same connections. He cracked the door to a whole new world for me and that door has always remained open. I’ll always be grateful that he introduced me to a true interdisciplinary way of viewing the world.

Looking back at this blog post, I realize that it is as much about me as about Augie Coppola. He had that effect on people. Many of the news items are about the death of Nicholas Cage’s father. But all who knew him will smile at that irony. He will be greatly missed.

Some obituaries:

November 3rd, 2009

LGBT Handcart Rescue

Great LGBT Handcart RescueI have written about the need to bring struggling lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender Mormons back into the fold, as a demonstration of unconditional love and acceptance. It is a cause I believe in very strongly, as it is a cause of incredible family pain that does not seem to have its equal in non-Mormon families. (See Keep Them and Love Them.)

I have also written about the Foundation for Reconciliation and their laudable activities (see A Move Toward Reconciliation, Bring them In From the Plains and the Home at Last benefit concert). Wednesday, Nov. 4, the anniversary of the passage of Proposition 8 in California with tens of millions of dollars of help from individual Mormons and Mormon companies, all at the request of their ecclesiastical leaders, is another Foundation activity.

The Great LGBT Handcart Rescue begins at 1:00 pm at the This is the Place Monument. From there, the group will trek by handcart, as did so many of our pioneer ancestors, to a 3:30 pm gathering at City Creek Park, at the northeast corner of North Temple and State streets. At 4:00 p.m., the group will deliver a package with signatures from a petition asking for reconciliation with LGBT members to LDS Church Headquarters.

This is an important event in the continuing story of LGBT equality in Utah and in the LDS Church. I encourage all who can spare some time to join in the Wednesday afternoon trek—or at least a part of it—and join the gathering at 3:30. Because so few of us can travel to Utah for the event, we count on those of you who are fair-minded and care about your family members to stand up for them and participate.

And thank you, Foundation for Reconciliation, for your continuing hard work on our behalf.

September 1st, 2009

Hubby Hubby

Ben & Jerry’s Renames Legendary Flavor to Celebrate Freedom to Marry

Hubby HubbyBURLINGTON, Vt. - (BUSINESS WIRE) - Ben & Jerry’s, known for its euphoric ice cream flavors and dedication to social justice, celebrates the beginning of the freedom to marry for gay and lesbian couples in Vermont with the symbolic renaming of its well-known ice cream flavor “Chubby Hubby” to “Hubby Hubby.” In partnership with Freedom to Marry, Ben & Jerry’s aims to raise awareness of the importance of marriage equality and, to show its support, will serve “Hubby Hubby” sundaes in Vermont Scoop Shops throughout the month of September.

Ben & Jerry’s has a long history of commitment to social justice, including gay rights. Its partnership with Freedom to Marry, a national leader in the movement for marriage equality, aims to raise awareness of the importance of marriage equality and to encourage other states to follow the blazing trails of Vermont, Massachusetts, Connecticut, Iowa, and Maine. Freedom to Marry promotes the national conversation about why marriage equality matters and brings together partner organizations into a larger whole - a shared civil rights campaign.
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August 26th, 2009

Senator Edward Kennedy — 1932-2009

I remember when Edward Kennedy first came to the Senate he was called “Teddy” because he was the youngest member of the three-son Kennedy dynasty in Washington. He was a Teddy bear who became the Lion of the Senate. His political career was much longer than that of his brothers, President John F. Kennedy and Sen. Robert F. Kennedy, both of whom were assassinated at the height of their careers. Though he came from a background of privilege, he fought his entire life for working class people.

In this video—during which Sen. Kennedy speaks of the need for universal health care—you get a glimpse of why he was the Lion. How ironic that the man who called universal health care “the cause of my life,” who introduced comprehensive legislation over a dozen times during his career, and who believed that everyone should have the same quality of medical insurance as Members of Congress, should die of cancer while that same Congress continues to debate who deserves coverage and who does not.


July 28th, 2009

Marni’s Ride

This post is from a dear friend of ours, Marni Myers, who lives and works in the Washington, DC, area. We strongly encourage you to support her effort, as we have.

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Marni Myers during the 2008 LiveStrong RideA few weeks ago, Buckley kindly invited me to be a guest blogger on The Buck and Mike Blog. Since then, I’ve mentally written this post dozens of different ways, trying to strike just the right tone and include just the right content. The result: Scrap all previous attempts and just be blunt. The purpose of my post is this: I’m raising money for the Lance Armstrong Foundation, which funds cancer research and supports those currently battling cancer, and I’m looking for donations.

Jeremy MyersThree years ago, I watched my brother lose his battle with melanoma at the age of 30, leaving behind a wife and two young children. Since this death, my family and I have rallied around this worthy cause, namely through our participation in the Foundation’s LiveStrong Challenge—an event held in various locations throughout the country every summer in which participants walk, run, or ride their bikes to raise money for the Lance Armstrong Foundation. The atmosphere at the Challenge is inspiring, as everyone there has been personally affected by the devastation that cancer causes. Many of the participants are cancer survivors and some are fighting against cancer right now.

This year, I plan to ride my bike 70 miles in the hilly countryside around Philadelphia to show my commitment to finding a cure for this pervasive, despicable disease. In previous years, I’ve gone 40 miles, so 70 will be a stretch, but I figure that is what the LiveStrong Challenge is all about. I’ve already raised over $500 and would like to see that figure top $1,000—not only because this is an extremely worthy cause, but because I have a friendly competition going with my brother-in-law. I have won every year so far and see no reason to discontinue that trend.

Cancer touches everyone. If you don’t know anyone who’s had cancer, just wait. If no one close to you has yet died of cancer, just wait. I believe we can change that pattern by pooling our resources to find a cure.

There are thousands of worthy causes out there vying for attention. Today I ask that you focus on mine. Any donation, no matter how small, makes a difference. To donate, visit my personal fundraising webpage here. Let’s stop this thing called cancer in its tracks! Thank you.

Marni rides with
Team Ohana logo

June 14th, 2009

Reminder of Kindness

A fun story in Wednesday’s Oregonian tells about a small gesture of kindness:

Margaret Haberman, The Oregonian
Wednesday June 10, 2009, 3:00 PM

It’s amazing what a small gesture can do.

Someone left a neatly sealed envelope on a stack of free papers in one of the boxes outside Powell’s Books. I happened to be the lucky one who reached in and found it.

On the outside, someone had written: “Finders Keepers!” In smaller lettering on the side: “Remind someone you love them, when they least expect it.”

The envelope was sealed. Something was inside — it felt a little chunky. With a message like that on the front, it could only be good, right?

The chunkiness turned out to be a zipper baggie. Inside: a $10 bill.

Finders Keepers found envelope

June 8th, 2009

More Recessionary Kindness

Nowadays, many people who offer free items on Craigslist ask that the items go to charity or to someone who really needs the items. Looking for free wood scraps for fireplace burning next fall, I came across this entry. I’ve seen the ad before. The person bakes for people who are in need of bread. A very kind act in tough times, it reminds me of the stories by relatives of feeding transients at the back door during the Great Depression of the 1930s. My great-aunt said she always baked an extra loaf because she knew there would be someone who needed it.

Craig's List ad

Also, see our earlier blog about another Portland hero. If you see or hear about a business or individual who shows extra kindness during these tough economic times, please share it with us.

May 29th, 2009

Recessionary Kindness

Generosity in Times of Scarcity. Photo by Rebecca GabrielThere was a time during the first months of the financial recession when people were really on edge, grumpy, and clearly worried about what would come next. Now that we know it’s all bad and there isn’t much we can do about it (except stimulate the economy by spending money we don’t have or use credit we can’t get), it seems we have all settled in and calmed down a bit. Portland is known for being polite, laid back, and patient. Maybe it’s different where you live, but I see that spirit increasing lately. People are more helpful, they share more, and they are clearly being kinder.

The local free weekly, the Willamette Weekly, had a photo contest recently about reactions to the recession. This photo, by Portlander Rebecca Gabriel, won the contest. Titled “Generosity in Times of Scarcity,” it is of a sign in the window of Plaza Cleaners in Portland.

Thanks to Rebecca and, especially, to Plaza Cleaners.

If anyone sees or hears about a business or individual who shows extra kindness during these tough economic times, please share it with us.

May 25th, 2009

Memorial Day

Sherfius, Boulder CO Camera

May 10th, 2009

Happy Mother’s Day

We would like to extend our love to our mothers and our deepest gratitude to all the women in our lives—and in the world—whose quiet strength, amazing creativity, deep nurturing spirit, and fierce sense of protection have kept society centered and sane since its beginning. Thanks for helping keep the world turning for another year.